Building bridges is no longer my thing.
I've leant the hard way...to let go in the most unusual way.
Yes, I might still hold grudges; grudges deeply buried in some remote corner of my brain, that do occasionally sneak out and rattle me still.
But, they do not exist... yes, those who hurt no longer exist for me; they maybe alive, but, for me their existence is nil.
Its the one way to a more peaceful life, when you've burnt those bridges and cut off from those who hurt forever.
I no more believe in building bridges to the past.
These words of wisdom, to yourself and your readers, are not mere homily (though that would be justification enough). They move in the rhythm and cadence of poetry.
ReplyDeleteI agree, it takes too much energy to replace a broken bridge that is emotionally fragile. One slight remark and you are left sitting on the opposite bank of the river; again. Live the positive life.
ReplyDeleteSometimes you just have to burn the bridge.
ReplyDeleteAn effective solution, if a bleak one
ReplyDeleteI agree. Don't build bridges to the past. The old man is dead.
ReplyDeleteSome bridges are meant to be burned. Difficult choice but sometimes it's the only, and healthy thing to do.
ReplyDeleteLoved your poem ... I simply will not waste time on negative, rude, hurtful people. And all the happier for it. Cheers.
ReplyDeleteNandini, I think it took you a long, rugged road to get to this place. Good for you. Excellent and wise writing.
ReplyDeleteWhen the hurt goes too deep, you simply have to move on.
ReplyDeleteA powerful yet sad story. I understand the character's perspective on the one hand. It is tempting to cut ourselves off from those who hurt us, but we end up hurting again, I think.
ReplyDeleteYes, bridges to the past can be dangerous and hurtful. But I still believe in building bridges in the present, those that have the capability of helping us cross to a brighter future.
ReplyDeleteIt's sometimes the only way to stay sane. Beautifully told.
ReplyDeleteDear Nandini,
ReplyDeleteApparently she's become wise along life's highway. Nicely done.
Shalom,
Rochelle
I really liked the psychology and wisdom in this - and the twist on building bridges vs burning them. I was reading a personality book and there is a certain type of individual that can be easy to detach and they say "burned bridges light the way for the next phase" - and your fiction reminded me of that - but your story here had more intentionality, more healthy processing and ways to cut ties or detach because it was the right thing to do. Enjoyed your story so much!
ReplyDeletethanks so much everyone :-)
ReplyDeleteWise words. Sometimes you have to let go.
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